You're NOT failing

You're functioning with outdated survival programming

I’m glad you’re here.

Because if you’re reading this, you’ve probably hit that point where success isn’t the problem… your capacity is.

Not because you're weak or dramatic
(you’re actually tougher than most people realize),

but because the rules you learned growing up:

🌏 cultural expectations
🪓 family survival strategies
💪 the “be strong, be perfect, don’t burden anyone” conditioning
⚡ high-achiever hustle culture
🤐 keep-your-head-down-and-push-through mentality

…served you back then.
But now?

They’re frying your nervous system and pulling the strings behind every spiral, shutdown, blow-up, and burnout you blame yourself for.

My mission is simple:

I help people like you UNLEARN THE BS that keeps you in your own way —

in your relationship with yourself,
your family,
your work,
your love life, and your friendships.

Because everything you want —
the clarity, the calm, the confidence, the connection —

lives on the other side of patterns you didn’t choose, but can unlearn.

The REAL villain behind your toxic patterns

It's not you —
it's the rules you learned to survive.

The real thing working against you isn’t laziness.
It isn’t lack of motivation.
It isn’t discipline.

It's your capacity being maxed out by:

😇 being the responsible one
😬 guilt when you say no
😰 fear of disappointing your family
🏆 perfectionism that never turns off
🥲 people-pleasing you learned in childhood
😵‍💫 anxiety from emotional suppression
🚨 “always prepared, never relaxed” mode
❤️‍🩹 trauma responses you normalized

You didn’t fail.
You adapted.
And now those adaptations are failing you.

What your nervous system is actually doing

When your body has been on high alert your whole life, it can’t tell the difference between real danger...

and your mom’s tone
or your boss’ Slack message
or your partner saying, “Can we talk?”
or your own catastrophic thoughts.

So you:

• react

• freeze

• overthink

• avoid

• shut down

• explode

• go numb

• feel like you’re “losing your shit” over small things

Your body isn’t dramatic. It’s overloaded. It’s exhausted. It’s doing the best it can with the tools it learned.

This is a capacity issue — not a character flaw

When you UNLEARN THE BS, everything gets easier

You stop reacting.
You start responding.
You stop spiraling.
You start seeing clearly.
You stop people-pleasing.
You start telling the truth.
You stop carrying guilt that was never yours.
You start building confidence you don’t have to perform for.

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How I help you build the emotional capacity to create a life you’re not constantly recovering from

1 — Find out What's Keeping You Stuck
We uncover what’s really driving your patterns — your emotional loops, nervous system responses, and the truths you’ve never named.

2 — Unlearn the BS
I give you the tools, frameworks, and emotional regulation strategies to rebuild your actual capacity — not just your mindset.

3 — Rewire How You Respond
You learn to stay grounded under stress, communicate clearly, and show up differently — without forcing it.

This is where everything starts to click.
And where your whole life starts to feel different.

Sh*t people say

About Life with Tawny

"I finally feel like I have some control over my life. Before this, I was just going through the motions and turning myself into someone I'm not. Coaching helped me remember who I was and who I want to be."

Mallory H.

"I REALLY value our session recaps. It's super helpful to reference exercises that help me make progress."

Camilla H.

"I've learned to acknowledge what I'm really responsible for and let go of what I'm not. I'm happier, less stressed, and have been able to improve the relationships in my life, both personal and professional."

logan S.

This ain’t any of that woo-woo bullsh*t either

We only believe in science here

If you’re here, it probably means you’re f*cking over it.

Over the pressure.

Over the pretending.

Over carrying the weight of everyone’s expectations.

Over trying to build a life you’re proud of while secretly wondering why it still feels so heavy.

I get it — because I was you.

For years, I lived in quiet chaos — juggling a demanding career, family pressure, my own trauma, and the emotional landmines that came with all of it.


I snapped under pressure. I spiraled in silence. I held everything together on the outside while falling apart on the inside.

Until I hit my limit — and realized the truth:

I didn’t need more discipline.

I needed more capacity.

I grew up learning all the same survival rules you did:

• be strong

• be grateful

• don’t burden anyone

• don’t be dramatic

• achieve more

• need less

Those rules made me successful.


But they also fried my nervous system, wrecked my relationships, and left me stuck in a cycle of overwhelm I couldn’t outwork, outrun, or outperform.

The turning point wasn’t some inspirational movie montage.


It was me — exhausted on my bedroom floor — deciding to stop outsourcing my power and start unlearning every piece of bullshit that was keeping me in my own way.

I became the hero of my own f*cking story.

And I rebuilt myself from the inside out.

Not by pretending everything was fine.

Not by bypassing my pain.


But by learning how to regulate, how to reconnect with myself, how to stop reacting from old wounds, and how to actually live instead of constantly recovering from life.

Now?
 I help high-achieving, heart-heavy humans do the same.

People who are successful on paper but overloaded inside.


People who grew up in survival mode and can’t figure out why “adulting” feels like drowning.


People who want to break their patterns — not become a motivational quote.

My coaching isn’t about toxic positivity or surface-level hacks.


It’s about building the emotional capacity your childhood never prepared you for.


It’s about unlearning the BS that keeps you in your own way — in your relationships, your work, your family, your love life, and your friendships.

It’s about finally having the tools, the support, and the self-trust to stop white-knuckling your life… and start actually living it.

You don’t need to hold it all together.

You just need a better way forward.

And that’s where I come in.

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